Posted: April 17, 2013 in Sermons
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I recently preached a sermon at our church on forgiveness as part of our series on Grace-based marriages. I always learn a lot when I preach and this time was no exception. I will post a brief outline below and you can listen here or download the podcast via iTunes.

Ruth Graham: “Every good marriage is defined by two good forgivers.”

1. One purpose of marriage is to reflect the mystery of Christ and the church (Eph 5:32)
2. Forgiveness comes from the God.
-Ephesians 2:1-7 (We were dead and he made us alive.) This is one long sentence/thought…The subject is “God” (v. 4). The verbs are “made alive” (v. 5), “raised us up” (v. 6), and seated (vs. 7). The object is “us.” We were dead in our sins. We were living out of the passions of our flesh, and not obeying God with our lives or with our minds.
3. Christians lives differently than the worlds. There is no clearer picture of this than in marriage.

Where does the need for forgiveness come from? 1. Unmet expectation. 2. Sin

Forgiveness is not…
1. Approving sinful behavior
2. Ignoring sin.
3. Forgetting.
4. Emotional death or using pain numbing substances.
5. Reconciliation
6. Neglecting justice.

1. What is forgiveness?
-To grant a pardon or to release a debt. Jesus taught a parable of forgiveness in Matthew 18

2. How does this look in a relationship? (Ephesians 4:25-32)
a. Don’t go to bed angry (v. 26)
b. Some of the ways you used to live will change. (V. 28)
c. Use words to build up: Edify (v. 29)
d. Avoid all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, slander, and malice (v. 31)
e. Be kind and tenderhearted. (v. 32)
f. Forgive (v. 30) – to give up desire or power to punish

Forgive also means “to leave behind”
There will be sin and failure. There also needs to be confession and forgiveness.
Our response is to come clean, cancel debts, and turn to the cross of Jesus.


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